Love of my life...

I have inspiration now to say about my lovely husband. I just thought that he writes about me on his blog agrinev.blogspot.com so much, and I never told him through blog anything.
I'm one of the most happy woman who was lucky to meet her couple. It's so important for every person. It's so interesting in our relations: in spite he's 8 years older than me, sometimes I feel as if he's my baby, my kid. He revitalizes such a controversial feelings in me, that it surprises me all the time. In one moment I feel myself a small girl, who's taken care about. Especially in the moments when he calms me down when I'm upset, when we go shopping and he never lets me take anything heavy and even not heavy at all - usually he says "u'r too small yet". When he wakes me up in the morning with a kiss and cup of coffee in a hand, or when he gives me evening massage. When he picks me up after work even if he has to wait for me 1 hour on the street just not let me get tired walking home by public transport. When he is ready to make all my dreams come true.... In all these moments I feel myself his baby, happy baby.
But sometimes I feel such a great responsibility about Him, as if he's really my kid. I bother him sometimes about putting on warm close before go out, to have launch everyday (i enjoy cooking for him), if here's some option about more comfortable place, or more delicious food, or something like that - all the time I'll make the choice in his side, cuz he's my baby too. It's such a great feeling to care about the person who also devote all his power time and money for u back. It inspires me to do more and more for him. This is mutual process and the main link in the love chain. Hope God will help us to save this inspiration about each other for the rest of our lives.


p.s. Right now he's laying on the sofa and trying to repair pocket computer, he shakes with his feet to the bit of music and whispers something to himself and he looks so charming, my God!!!!

Perfect partner

I always preferred men much older than me... And I think I'm not the only girl who think this way. First of all my dad is 7 years older my mom, and watching there relationship I wanted to have the same in my future family. Secondly I got used to my dad care that hardly could imagine another treatment to me from guys.
So when I was 14 years old I was so much complexed that I haven't kissed with a guy serious way yet :) And I considered that my first kiss I could present just to a guy who will not ashame me somehow cuz I didn't know how to do that. So for that process I chose a guy who was 5 years older than me. At that age it big difference, u know. Of cause I liked him a lot at that time, but today I realize that it's not even my first love. But for "first kiss" I chose right person cuz he was life experienced enough and also so far away from talks behind my back and all this teens shit.
When I was 19 years old a serious happened to me, but this time a men was 35 years old. I loved when other people payed attention to us seeing this age difference. After that I had many friends and admires (guys) who where minimum 10 years older than me and I loved being in there company cuz usually they reminded me my father's treatment. But after all I started realizing, that all that men in spite of there status and money, experience and treatment, don't have something that have younger guys - some kind of "life energy". They chained to me and where living by me. At the beginning all this luxury and outstanding our friendship was interesting for me, but I started getting tired. When I saw another couples who where the same age with each other the way they smiled and spend time, they loved the same music and had the same interests, they lived active sport life but not spending all the time eating in a restaurant even in a good one - I just woke up. So now I know one thing - relationship (i'm not talking about if u'r married already!!! just relations - close friends, admires, lovers) with a man who much older than u (more than 10 years) are good just for experience but not worth spending ur time for a long.
Now I'm much happy with my husband who is just 8 years older than me - but in spite of that we look at the same direction in everything (almost everything) :-)
p.s. and this respectful treatment, full of love and care, which many girls dream about, depends not on age, but person himself.

Women' Jealousy

I'm a very jealous person. Even more awful - i want the person to be just mine. I wanna him to see just me, to breath with me, to live in me. Brrrr!.... Awful! I know that. But can't do anything. I wanna be not even loved (it's not enough), adored by my partner!!! According to all issues of men psychology I supposed to be alone the whole life, cuz men are afraid of such woman. But when men are so jealous - woman should be tolerant and accept that as a norm. Well, but my happiness is that i can control my feelings somehow, not to show that (that's why I have the best men as a husband now and besides I never had problems in relations since 19 years old). So I live according to the principal: or I give all of myself to the partner Or i give nothing (the relations shouldn't be started - I'm alone). So I can do everything for man just only in a case if he'll give me back just a small-small thing... his soul :) (like a small devil). But, men, don't worry, my partners and ex one live happily now, they are in a good health and feel sorry that they lost me one day. Cuz being objective I really give all myself to the partner. So my jealousy is coming out as (not scandals, God save!): if i notice that my partner doesn't adore me when I need it (every one has sentimental moments) I getting very cold. In my mind I feel very lonely and I push away the partner. All my love and warmth disappears somewhere. But physically everything the same. But emotionally the partner feels it. I kiss him, i can embrace him, prepare breakfast or something like this. But everywhere in the air here's "winter"... cold... Probably many guys, reading that, feel so sorry about my husband (calm down guys, he'll be saved). And what's more interesting sometimes I love these moments, cuz If before in period of "summer" I couldn't imagine how I would take the pain if a man leave me, so in these moments of "winter" I feel power to live alone very good. I'm getting a very big power and confident. And it makes me stronger, when in my heart only LOVE for myself is left. That's great. After that when my mood changes and I'm not so sentimental, I come back to usual relations and forget about these minutes. Notice: no scandals in relations, just some changes in my soul. Actually the partner can behave as usual, but my mood is very changeable. Of cause I'd love to have the same mood every time about my partner, it'll me easier for me, but from another side it's boring. I think that to be more calm about relations I should love a little bit less. It means I should love myself more. But I can't live like that. Everything or nothing - my stupid principal. I'm honestly write about myself. I know it's not the best feature of mine, but believe me - in "summer" period it's hard to find woman better than me :)
p.s. For woman who a jealous as me:
1. don't make scandals. If u can't accept something or ur tolerance has finished - just leave.
2. don't shantage ur partner with sex or things u usually do about the house (preparing meals)
3. don't talk about problems with ur parents and girlfriends (for ur own good)
4. just start LOVE urself more

Feelings after sex

As many lovers we can have - as different feelings we can have after sex.

Physically all feelings can be divided just into 2 parts:
1. u can feel tired and lazy after sex
2. u can be full of energy.

It actually depends on the energy exchange of both partners. And here are different practice and methods to share energy with ur partner and to save it. One of the most popular practice for "sex for health" is Tantra. But unfortunately I can't fond of it cuz of lack of information. The more energy we have - the more healthy we feel. Freid used to say that here's just one kind of life energy - sexual energy, it means that the source of energy is in sexual excitement. I can't totally agree, but may be I just don't know something, anyway I'm not a scientist as him. So during sex a person loose a lot of energy, it's fact. So to spend the energy one should have it before. That's why one of my principals (to have sex only with person who I LOVE) is based on it. I take energy from my Love to share it during the sex with the partner not to feel emptiness of strengths after sex. Of cause here's much more different factors influencing on our physical condition after sex - time, weather, place, feelings, stress etc. But again i repeat - mostly it depends on energy exchange - our relations with partner, thoughts and attitude to this process. To "give" - not to "get"...

Psychologically...
From one side here's more difficult, from another - much easier. How many times, feeling uncontrolled passion before, after having sex, u felt urself so lonely and empty? Why? Again 2 reasons: or u didn't need that partner at the beginning and just couldn't resist to passion OR ur partner didn't meet ur expectations and left u without attention after sex. So here is more difficult cuz u never know how ur partner will behave after sex, and easier - cuz all this feelings are inside u and u can control them changing the attitude to circumstances. When the relations between partners are steady and strong, of cause everyone wants to be covered in an embrace of the partner in a cozy, warm blanket, feeling a hot breathing of partner somewhere on a neck, hearing some whisper of pleasant words in ears, and be covered with small-small light kisses in chicks. That's perfect psychological situation after sex. But if u don't know the partner long and after sex he or she doesn't give u the warmth u need, to my mind it's better just to get up and to leave. Why? Cuz having done that u'll feel much more confident and not so lonely. Did u notice that sometimes when something goes wrong in relations with ur partner, being in the same room together u feel so awfully lonely. And opposite - being alone u don't feel lonely. That's why to stay with a person for who u was just for sex and u hoped for some more serious relations will put u in depressed feeling, disappointed, u'll start blaming urself for another mistake u did, and more awful feeling disgusting about urself. That u can't let happen.

So and I have one question for u guys: what would u like ur partner to do after sex (to prepare a drink, coffee, massage, etc)?

2 men+ 1 woman?...

I told u guys my experience & thoughts about situation when in sex participate 2 girls & one man. So it's time to discuss opposite situation. In this case i think that the thoughts to involve another guy in sex mostly times belong to women actually, but they very seldom say that aloud to their partner. They just behave the way to push their men to propose this to them. Though here's many different types of relationships between men&women, so it's very hard to say for 100% who's is mostly initiator :)

My personal opinion: in GENERAL IT CAN BE interesting for experience (but sometimes during sex with my husband i hardly can imagine how i'd deal with 2 guys and would carry on this if i'm satisfied with my husband much more than i even need), but only in a case when u r:

1. far away from home (in different country) when u'r sure u ll never meet that guys any more (just in case);

2. got acquaintance with two guys-friends at the same time and had the same relations with each of them

3. u know them not long time but already can trust them.

So as u see it's very hard to find right partners for this process ;)

But i remember couple years ago i was dating with one guy, and we had nice relations and i appreciated them a lot. So after some time he proposed me to have sex with another guy (attention! it was a men, who proposed that!) but as far as i didn't want our relations changes after that i refused. We broke up after some time, and sometimes i regret i didn't try that. But also. When u love somebody (like now i love my husband) i love to belong just to him, i love to show that in front of other guys who can flirt with me. I get some kind of satisfaction so i hardly can imagine myself being shared by husband with another man. Also it's gonna be just sex, but i have the principle to have sex only with the person I love (i wrote about that).

But in any case the relations will change after that. And it's very risk full for loving couples. The relations can change as to better side - u'll open something new in a partner and u'll start to trust him more, as to worse - u'll not like that and not be able to forget ur partner in that time, ur memory will not leave u in harmony or u'l just be jealous. So one should to risk when he has nothing to loose i think (even with husband or wife, when the relations came to the end just to refresh them any way, but not as many young couples preferring free sexual relations being married!). According to forums where that subject is often discussed many couples broke after that. And everyone should understand where this freedom in sexual life leads love to...

Men&Women

How many examples of unhappy couples we can find in the world. The relations between men & women are as at war. At the beginning of their relations everything is very romantic and beautiful. But after sometime people start hating each other. I've never understood how it happens. I understand that relationships changes through time, the passion is going away, u can fall with somebody else. That I understand. But after 10-15 years of family life, it doesn't matter how many years u lived together, after all this beautiful relations - hating??? No. I don't understand. Hope - never will. I always thought in spite what bad u did to each other - if u wanna break - u should do this nice way, that's my rule.
So how to keep relationship? I'm young yet, but last time I started to remember my grandma's words. She always told me that being in a couple - I should be: 1. tolerant 2. smart 3. and respect the guy. So the same I expect from the guy. Being 16 years old i replied grandma that the guy should this and that: he should love me, he should adore me, help me, carry about me, etc. So I'm free, but the guy is oblige to me. That's the end of any relations. The most important thing - is to love by urself, cuz it's ur own feeling, and it makes u fly. To give, not to get - this the principal of happy couples. Very often couples can put themselves in scandals and arguing, but wherever happen - always watch ur words, what u say, what u do. Never let urself disrespect ur partner. And believe me, if he appriciate ur relations - he will save it. But in spite of guys say that they don't like clever girls - be smart, don't show it, and life shows that only smart girl can build strong and beautiful relations.
Any relations in the world - it's like a mirror, whatever u send to the world (to ur relations) - it'll be back for sure. So the only thing we should carry about - who we are and what we can give to the partner. We should build ourself, and when we gonna be ready - the partner will feel it and none of u will be able to stop this attraction ))